When I started this post, I thought it would be all about the importance of celebrating female friendships. I thought that I could write an essay that pointed out all the romantic relationships in the media, and how female friendships tend to fall to the back burner. I’d be frustrated, yet hopeful, and anyone who read it would toss out their romance novel and read (or write) a love story about best friends instead.
(You don’t have to throw out your romance novel. Romance is nice, too.)
Something funny happened when I started that post: the words wouldn’t come.
Don’t get me wrong–I still think popular culture has a long way to go, and I am sick of hearing that ‘girls are too dramatic.’ It would be so nice to see friendship (female friendship or otherwise) as glorified as romantic relationships.
But instead of trying to convince you of that fact, I think I want to write about how much I love my best friends.
Maybe it is because most of my best friends are several states apart. Maybe it’s because with every phone call and text, I feel more and more blessed. I know I am blessed.
I am blessed because I can get a tattoo in their honor, and I know I won’t ever regret it.
I am blessed because I can call any of them at 4am, and they won’t be mad.
I am blessed because I can express all of my worries to them, no matter how seemingly trivial, and they will say that they are praying for me.
They understand my nerdiness and my awkwardness and make my general weirdness feel not so weird.
Or, you know, they just point out how weird I am, but in that loving, sisterly kind of way that makes me laugh.
They are my soul mates and my sisters. They are the stories I hold close to my heart. They are some of my favorite human beings on the face of this earth.
I know a lot of this sounds hopelessly cliché. But if there is anything I have learned in the past twenty-three years, it’s that love can be like that sometimes.
“Friendship is born at that moment when one person says to another: “What! You too? I thought I was the only one.”- C.S Lewis
I am not the only one, and I am so grateful.
What does friendship look like to you? Why do you love your best friends? I want to hear your stories, so tell me in the comments or send me a message on Twitter!